being a second choice?

Would you accept to be a second choice, would you give some one who is not your true love a chance???

is there a clear answer? is there a easy answer???if you see things, most people will say, yes the answer is clear....we all like to say....no....i will wait for true love...i did think like that..but i am not so sure any more, is because i am older? is because i live a lot? i always consider, i should love, i should believe in love, pure love, honesty...i always consider you should not go look for a second choice, not settle for a second choice, you should be honest to yourself....

but i did think a lot, would i had accept being a second, or even third choice to the person i love? would i stayed with someone i trully love, even knowing that person did love as much? there is not a yes or no answer, because we all will answer in a different way..some will say no...i wouldnt stay, because they are too proud for being a second choice...

i am honest, i would stayed, i would had loved being Anna second choice, i would would say yes, in a heart beat... its true what i felt for her was pure, i always believe that if you love with all your heart, with all your soul, if you had true love, pure you would conquer anything...well...reality prove is not like this, life is different...

but the question remains, should we stay with some we care, or like but dont love??? will we be happy this way??? can we learn to love a person with time??? when we are young we believe only total will do, nothing else is not even considered...but you grow, you see life...and you start asking yourself...should i give the chance to some one who loves me???

i am right now living this question, i have person, some one i know for more them 20 years, she says she want to share a life with me, we are friends, we do the same sport, i know her family, i stay in their house, they stay in mine, but i dont love her, she is a good friend...should i move to her country? should i decide to start a family with her???

i am person who is honest, if would do that, i am sure if we would had kids i would be a good father, i would respect her, i would be honest with her, but would i be a good husband? would i be a good partner? would do anything for her? would i be thinking of a me? or would be thinking of a us??? i cannot answer this questions...and i dont want to find out in the real life, i think a person deserve the best from you...i know she would give her best...i dont know...

i know two persons who life with a second choice, why? because they share a life, they have a family, they have a place to go after work, they have some one to share the good moments, the bad moments, yes, its no love, yes, its not a life with a mad rush, but its like a calm walk in the park, they are there for each other...yes this not more them lots of people have??? is not this enough???

right now i dont know...i truly dont know....but this is something that is coming to my mind more often, that i am reach for stars, that i am looking for the impossible, that i am trying to find something that is to rare, that i would look around, that i should find peace and joy in a enjoy a life with some who cares for me, that we could do things together, instead of being alone...maybe this is a question that we all ask yourselfs....second choice....it sounds bad....maybe we should ask instead....alone or being with some who cares?  with some we care for you???

life is not made of black or white choices, some are gray, some are not clear, but we most be think and believe in the choices we make....maybe being a second choice is not so bad....maybe giving some who care for you a change is not so bad....we all have to think, we all must make a choice, look for the true love, wait, life alone, give a choice to some one who dont trully love, be a second choice to the person who trully love....we will make a choice, we will take a decision, but after this decsion is taken...what ever this decision is....take it with all heart and soul...and them embrace it, and never look back,  stopping looking back....we never know, maybe life will surprise us....