listen....

do you listen? do you really listen to what the person who you should care more them anything in the world say?? 99.9% will say...of course i listen....do you??? do you really???

i did say the same, i trully think i was listen, until i realise, i didnt really listen....i didnt understand what was the message behind the words, i can say, hey i am a man, i dont understand, i expect things to be clear....but you are dealing with??? with your friends, with the guys from the gym? nooooo, you are listen to the person who is everything to you, you should pay attention....you should listen....

Anna said a few times...i dont expect any proposal from you...we were together for about 4 months...i didnt listen, i was thinking....she is saying i should move not fast....in fact was the opposite...that i should start thinking if i was ready to get married....didnt i listen when she said i would like to have a baby...i was thinking...its not the right time...she just move in a new job...new country...we had a new place....let wait...how much different would have been my life??? how much better would have been my life??? even today i get feeling of lost of desperation that i cannot express...i didnt listen...i didnt pay attention,...and i was afraid...how stupid can you be??? i can say now i would have done things so different...but now its to late...now its not possible....

do you listen, trully listen, to the little things??? do you pay attention to the women you love?? i am tired...i had a bad day at the office...you say..i do..i say...what happen...seat here...but there is another part...you are tired my love? let me cook a nice dinner...while you get a relaxing bath...let me get you tea...bad day at the office...let go out the next weekend, let have  nice weekend outside the city to relax to be recharge your batteries...this is listen, this is being there for the women you love...this is what is being a partner....its not just being at home, is making your other half feel loved, feel secured, feel appreciated....no...i didnt do all of this...and my love was honest...i was not the perfect the man for Anna, i learn with losing, i hope that most people dont have to lose to improve...that is way i keep this blog alive, to show to people not every one is a asshole...that are people like me, who lost, you improve, who change, who can bring all the love in their hearts for you....

listen to words, but listen more them the words, listen to message, listen to what is in the heart of your loved one, of the person you care more them everything...and yes you can listen and still do nothing, you can still think about you first, you can still have your own agenda first...but them you dont trully love this person, you still dont understand the meaning of true love, i have the impression most people in this planet will never know the meaning of true love, what means to have a true and absolute love, you need to walk in hell to see what heaven looks like, you need to be burn alive to feel the nice touch of love, must of us will never love enough to walk in hell, so at the first stages of problems...of pain...they will quit...they will move on...and think that love is cheap...no...love is everything...but you need to love to trully know this...

so please, listen, trully listen, see what it means...and if you are not sure...try to understand...ask a indirect question, try to see what is the real mean of what your love is saying...in my case i should have ask...i dont expect a proposal from you...i should said...my love, i love more them anything in this planet, tell me what is important for you, what you trully want??? yes, this may lead to a marriage proposal...but my heart was right, my love was pure, i would have been ready to marry Anna, why i didnt?? not because i didnt love her...because i was wrong about the priorities of my life...this would not happen again...never...

please...life doesnt give you many chances to be happy...so dont waste your time in people that are not worth while, and give everything to the ones you love....